Mihaela Moscaliuc

How to Ask for My Hand at My Grandmother’s Grave

“What a waste of space,” you murmur as the train cuts

through a cemetery whose halves rest like drowsy wings

between two pine forests, then “spooky” as our window

zips by faces smiling from porcelain plates glued to crosses.

You’ve crossed the ocean to marry me, so I cannot say

            I knew only one of them, but they are all mine,

            these dead turned strigoi who’ll not return

            to their bodies because the earth’s too loud

            and the town has betrayed them.

But I have to warn you—

            We carry cemeteries on our heads,

            in our bellies, round our ankles,

            we carry them to work

            and we carry them to sleep

            and when we make love

            they moan, they rattle, they sing.

            When our spine starts sinking we spit

            and curse and dance the pain off.

When I bring you to Grandmother’s grave,

behind the Dacian fortress, she’ll be armed

with questions: how hardy your love, how soft your fingers,

and your dead, how do you spoil them?

“After you cup your hands to catch the soul,”

she’ll want to know, “how do you release it?”

Don’t tell her about ashes thrown to winds, don’t say

you’ve never spilled red wine onto the earth

to quench your father’s thirst, or that you never read him

the Sunday paper. Do not tell her you love him

but have never seen his grave. I’ll translate your silence

and spread a white cloth under the rose trellis. We’ll offer

walnut breads and gossip, and she’ll forgive, and bless us,

then send me back across the ocean with a saddlebag of ghosts.



“How to Ask for My Hand at My Grandmother’s Grave” is from Father Dirt (Alice James Books, 2010).